What if shit only happened once?

One bad experience...

Have you noticed how one bad, difficult, awful, ugly, painful, you-name-it-yourself type experience goes on to infect your entire life?

You lose your job, your partner cheats on you, you don't get the grade you wanted, that first problem you have trying to get your business off the ground...

This one bad experience doesn't just infect your life for a day, week, month or even year. Oh no. It can mess you up for a lifetime.

Whereas, good experiences...

When good things happen in an important part of our lives, we build a stronger consciousness of 'good things happening' in that area. In the absense of a bad experience, positive things continue to happen. We expect them to happen. It becomes natural for them to happen.

But shit always brings more shit...

However, when we have a 'bad' experience, we somehow know that bad things don't come in ones. They always bring their mates and gatecrash our lives in their tens and thousands.

From one event, we start believing shit has to power to become an unstoppable force for harm in our lives.

Worse, our minds will fill in the long term details - 'shit will now happen for ages' or 'forever', 'until I sort it out', 'become more confident', 'learn to stand up for myself', 'get healed'...

We end up in some kind of self-created war zone with no idea how to make it go away.

Sound familiar?

When the bad gets really ugly...

One bad experience, left unattended, doesn't just cause patterns of havoc to take hold in one area of our lives. It can spill over into other areas of our lives too.

This leads to downward spirals of depression and ill health. We give up trying, settle for fewer and fewer crumbs under the table, sink into raw disempowerment.

Now we want the good, but expect the bad - we've come to believe it's more realistic, more likely, so we plan for it, protect ourselves from it, work out what to do when it all goes tits up, belly up, arse about face.

Turning it around...

How do we know that one shit event means that one whole area of our lives will always and forever be total shit?

What if...shit only happened once?

What if we could deal with a bad experience as a one-off? You know, it hurts I got made redundant, but hey, shit only happens once. Good stuff will happen next.

What if we could watch how our over-active minds take one event and run amock with it? Trying to protect us and prepare us by telling us that one shit experience heralds whole armies of shit throwers? When actually they are staining, dimming and sabotaging our futures...making it more likely shit will continue to happen?

Fast forward several decades and you meet people who are still saying 'I hate work,'. 'I'm crap at relationships', 'I'd be fine if I wasn't always ill.'

All because of one shit thing that happened way back that's infected their lives like an incurable disease.

The remedy is dealing with shit as a one off.

This gives us the power to start thinking about all the good things that are going to happen next.

Try this...

Imagine how different your life would be if you knew that shit only happened once.